From Homeless Shelter to College Dorm

I remember high school.

• The stress of keeping up in class.

• The jealousy, hurt feelings, and shifting loyalties of friends and frenemies.

• Parents telling me to work harder so I could win a scholarship to help pay for college.

• The teacher who crushed my soul when he declared my SAT scores a “disappointment” for someone as “gifted” as I was.

Despite all the perceived “tragedies” I faced, I had a home to return to at the end of the day—a tiny twin home on a tiny street in Philadelphia, but more than big enough for my parents and me.

Destyni Tyree deals with the same issues I dealt with when I was 16 years old. IMG_0351-e1439839834467

• She goes to school every day.

• She keeps up with her after-school job.

• She tries to stay busy with extra-curricular activities and find time for friends.

• She dreams of going to college.

But far from living in her own home, she is a resident of one of the most overcrowded homeless shelters in Washington, DC. I’m sure she would give anything to live in a single-family home or apartment, no matter how “tiny.”

That is not the hand Fate dealt her.

Overcoming the Slings and Arrows

A few years ago, Destyni’s mother lost her job, forcing the family to move into a homeless shelter. Life was hard. No privacy. No space. No hope.

Destyni was angry. So angry she fought with her mother, her teachers, and other students. She transferred from school to school, finding trouble everywhere she went until her mother enrolled her at Roosevelt STAY, an alternative high school in Washington, DC.

Switching to STAY switched a light bulb in her head. She decided she wanted to be a good role model for her younger sister. She realized if she wanted to avoid living in shelters forever she had to take charge of her life.

Girl, did she ever take charge.

Destyni not only attended regular classes at STAY High School, she enrolled in online classes, took weekend classes, and attended summer school. Suddenly, she was in a hurry. She finished high school in only two years.

“Quite frankly, I’m just ready to go and live life,” she says. “I know there’s a better life out there for me.”

A Well-Rounded Life Well Lived

graduation-cap-in-airBut Destyni doesn’t just have her head stuck in books—although her studiousness and hard work garnered her a 4.0 GPA and a full scholarship to Potomac State College of West Virginia University.

She also formed the first-ever cheerleading squad at STAY and became team captain. Her classmates selected her Prom Queen, and she works 25 hours a week at an ice cream parlor.

STAY Principal Eugenia Young calls her “a natural leader,” “a joy to be around,” and a person with “a good heart.”

Destyni didn’t let Fate have the final say in her life.

“We’re not a statistic and we’re not all the same,” she says of her family and other homeless families.

Her goal is to one day give back to the community that encouraged her by becoming a school principal.

I have no doubt that Destyni will reach her goal.

Where There’s Smoke . . .

I’ve always been afraid of fire. I have a particular fear of dying in a fire.

Some years ago, we had a small fire in the laundry room of the apartment building where I lived. I was never in serious danger, but I will never forget the choking, burning sensation in my throat and lungs as I crept through smoky hallways down three flights of stairs to the fresh air outside.

fire-fighter-278012_1280I often wonder about people who become firefighters. Do they overcome the fear? Or does their training keep them so focused on the job that they manage to keep the fear at bay?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot recently. I saw a story about a seventeen-year-old who pulled a police officer from his burning car on November 8.  Joe Chambers, a high school senior and volunteer firefighter from Delaware County, Pennsylvania, was visiting his sister in Philadelphia when he heard a crash. He said he immediately knew it was a car accident. A quick look out the window was enough for Joe to spot the spark of a fire.

At least one other Good Samaritan teamed up with Joe to extricate Officer Mark Kimsey from his car. The door wouldn’t open, so the teen and the other man pulled the officer out through a window and carried him to safety only moments before flames engulfed the vehicle.

Kimsey was responding to an emergency call. He had his lights flashing and siren blaring when he collided with a pickup truck. Joe and twenty-four-year-old Dante Johnson also pulled that driver from his vehicle.

Joe says “human instinct” kicked in. But I know my instinct would have been to stay out of harm’s way. I’m sure I would have called 911, but I don’t think I would run toward a fire to save a stranger.

I think Joe is a hero. Councilman David J. Wright thinks so too.  In a resolution honoring Joe Chambers for his actions, the Delaware County Council resolution declares that “the bravery of a young hero like this shines as a bright inspiration to all.”

Amen!

How do you think you would respond if you were called on to risk your personal safety for another person?

Do you know someone personally who acted heroically in a dangerous situation?

Embrace Your Talents

Don’t you hate those bumper stickers that read something like “My Labrador retriever is smarter than your honor student”?

IMG_2897Although I am most definitely a cat person, I have nothing against Labrador retrievers. But just when did brains and academic achievement become something worthy of ridicule?

Why is it okay to plaster news everywhere about someone’s exploits in sports but it’s considered unseemly to brag about academic achievement?

Maybe the bumper sticker is supposed to be funny. Maybe.

Everyone has gifts and talents. Whether it’s pitching no-hitters or baking cookies, woodworking or hitting high C’s, making friends or making straight A’s, your talents point the way to your future.

Own your talents. Nurture them. Share them.

Which brings me to Suproteem Sarkar. I read about this 17-year-old student in the Philadelphia Inquirer recently. He is definitely someone who embraces his talents. All of them.

revConstitution-Print-C10314518Sarkar studied fencing and classical piano before he began kindergarten. He’s a reporter for his Conestoga High School (Berwyn, PA) newspaper and a member of 45Words. This national, student-run organization “support(s) free speech for students . . . and help(s) students fight censorship.”

In his spare time, Sarkar coauthored two scientific papers on cancer treatments, organized a science club, and raised money for the Children’s Hospital of Pennsylvania cancer center.

Wow. When I read about young people like Sarkar, I am filled with hope for the future.

“How beauteous mankind is! O brave new world, That has such people in’t!”
—William Shakespeare, The Tempest

What are your talents? What is holding you back from sharing them with the world?